We're almost into the second month of 2015. It's a new year full of hope and promise, a fresh start, a new beginning....but do we always want a new beginning? Not me. Not this year.
You see, I got myself to a place in my life where: - I'm able to experience true love again. - I can be with a man who doesn't try to change me, judge me and supports my growth. - I still have my own identity and know who I am in AND out of a relationship. - I don't have irrational fears of infidelity. - I trust myself and could trust my partner 100%. - My confidence is soaring and I left my "safety nest" to go after my dreams. - My family relationships improved TREMENDOUSLY. - I made real authentic connections and friendships with men & women. (Something that was really awkward and hard for me before!)
But this wasn't always the case....
Let me be totally transparent with you. I know all about fresh starts. I have been divorced twice. If you have ever been divorced, you might agree that sometimes we don’t want to have a fresh start even if we're unhappy because we feel safe. We want to stay married, despite the relationship being far from perfect.
At least I did.
For me, divorce was heart-wrenching and starting over was even worse. I was asked to get married but neither of my husbands ever asked me, “Hey Jen, would you agree to get divorced?” Sadly, both times, I was told over the phone and I wasn't given a choice. I felt FORCED to have to start over and I was terrified.
I was afraid that no other man would understand me or get to know me the way he did. That no one would joke with me or hold me the way he did. I kept thinking of the past and rehashing in my mind what I did, what I said, what I could have done differently and feeling guilty that it was all my fault. Even WORSE, I felt…."Who WAS I if I wasn’t in a relationship?" A big part of my identity was gone.
And even when I thought I had moved on and started dating again, I felt like something was always missing and I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I constantly compared the men I dated to my exes. And even if he seemed perfect, I'd find something wrong with him.
I used to think that if I just found the “right” guy the relationship would magically work just like in the movies. However, that’s not the case. Through a process of self discovery, uncovering the truth about myself (by getting the help and support that I needed) I learned that it was never about "the guy." It was always about me. I needed to change my unconscious beliefs about myself in order to attract that right partner.
So if you still haven’t found the guy for you, and relationships are just not working out, most likely you have a blind spot you just can’t see. And if you do know what it is, you haven’t been able to fully access it yet.
I thought that I needed to heal on my own, “just get my shiz together.” Hey, I've always heard "Time heals all wounds." NOT. It took me almost four years before I realized that I could not do it by myself. Four years of lots of TV re-runs, dead-end dates, failed relationships, loss of self confidence and questioning the value I held in a relationship. And let’s be honest; how long can one wait while the unhappiness and frustration one way or another easily starts spilling into your career, your dreams, and your energy levels? So I finally gave in and accepted help.
Here is the great part. It doesn’t have to take that long for you.
I get where you're at. Divorced or not, you give your relationships your all, you put your heart on the line and it doesn't work out. I want you to get to that place where you will be able to put your heart out there again in an even bigger way. There's hope. I turned my relationships and life around, and damn, if I could do it so can you!
To help you begin shifting from the inside out so you can be with the man you always dream about, I am offering you a four week "Single to Soulmate Accelerated Program." So that I can serve you to the best of my ability, I'm limiting the enrollment to only 10 women. Plus, I made it super affordable so it's totally low risk to sign up! (Trust me, I know your heart is precious and you guard it well……and that is the point. Your HEART is PRECIOUS and it’s time to let your guard down. You don’t have to do it alone.) xoxoxoxo
>>>> CLICK HERE to schedule a time for us to talk to see if the class is a good fit for you. (Remember, I'm only accepting 10 women so take action now!) With Deepest Love, Jen